Looking for friendship

Hi,
I'm looking for friendships not currently dating, I find this very difficult. I am married but have gone through a major issue which has left me lonely and insecure. I'm a generally fun loving and happy individual that would live to have general chats without getting heavy. How can I do this?

Happy 58,
Because you have gone through a major issue, which has left you lonely and insecure,now it is about building up your self esteem,self confidence, doing what makes you feel comfortable, pace yourself, First, you have to deal with the issues that left you lonely and insecure,until you do this,you will unable to move forward.

I would love to correspond with you. My email address is ***@gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you

Hi. I recently joined this site to seek friendships intially. My situation is 'different' in that I am caring 24/7 for my terminally ill wife of 44 years. She was disgnosed last October with stage 4 lung and brain tumours and may live another 12 to 15 months. I really am seeking friends outside of family and existing circle as I need some semblance of 'normality' and a link to the future where I know I will be alone. I cannot leave her for longer than a few hours each day, and I will not 'date' as I am old- fashioned in my views. However, to message people on this site would be welcome, perhaps to build a relationship for the future. I have read the posts on the subject of making friends and I believe that you just have to carry on making the effort either talk on sites like this, or, as someone said, to join clubs and talk to as many people as poss.
Love to all and I look forward to speaking with anyone who wants to chat. X
Tony.

Hello Tony,

I hope that you have made some good progress in finding friends, or at least people to chat with, since your initial post. I am also a long-term carer (for a parent) and have just joined the site, despite the fact that I have precious little time or energy for socialising.

I think it's important to try to communicate with different people and maintain some personal interests. It must be so tough for you caring for your terminally ill wife, it's such a lonely and difficult journey. You are right about family and friends, it's not always easy to share thoughts and feelings with people who know (or think they know) what's going on.

My best wishes to you.

Why certain people have NO FRIENDS...or almost no friends...in some cases can be seemingly confusing.
In my case, I have some potentially good positive traits: I am a WM 68 with nice looks, wear normal casual clothes, have a normal pleasant personality. Sometimes, someone like myself might have a single friend..
and that single friend can bring you into contact with some of their friends. But they are always aware you are the odd ball..you are simply a friend of someone else. Not having any friends also is a problem that perpetuates itself. By being embarrassed about having no friends yourself, you don’t allow much to be known about yourself, you don’t allow much closeness to occur with others, because in doing so you will reveal the embarrassing truth about yourself ....which is the fact you don’t have your own social life and you don’t have anything to offer in this arena. I have placed personal ads on various sites ( including this one ) and I always tell the truth about my own empty social life...and I always say I am seeking a WF in her 60s with the very same social problem I have and who would not be harmed by my nature because she would have the very same odd social nature herself.

Hello everyone
I have just joined Seniors and reading posts My dear husband lost his battle with cancer only a few weeks ago and I'm finding life very lonely family are great but sometimes there is a need to speak to people in the outside world I think

Hit me Up
Don't worry our friendship gonna be fun , am gonna turn your sad face to a smiling face

yes i 2 am looking 4 friendship only.pls read my profile... be lovely 2 hear from future friends.sylv

Hi I'm looking to make friends, read my profile and if you want to chat, feel free

hello everybody would like to make friends yo socialise with hope there is someone out there

Comments have been made about people with no friends,well i am one of them.The only friend i had was my wife,who died from cancer 12 months ago,married over 55 years.Main reason was the way I was raised as a child:1 children should be seen and not heard. 2 Speak when you are spoken to. 3 Do not talk to strangers. 4.Good manners at all times,politeness costs nothing.My wife was amazed that I did not have any friends or things like birthday parties,it probably did not help and this is another story that my sister?,who i did not find out about,till i was in my 20's was in fact my unmarried mother

hello you still out there

Yes I'm in the same boat, love to find a walking buddy etc. Or just someone to share a coffee. When there are good prospects they're too far away!