The five questions that will reveal your real emotional age.
Once you hit 40, mature is a word you start to hear more and more. Suddenly you will find yourself targeted by products and services aimed at a ‘mature’ audience. You hit the shops only to be told you need to buy face creams designed for ‘mature’ skin or that certain fashion brands are suitable for your ‘mature’ body. You may be encouraged to try ‘mature’ dating. It can be overwhelming. After all, age is just a number. You may still feel like you are in your twenties. Why does the world suddenly assume you are serious, steady, and worst of all old?
But what does maturity really mean? Is it about the age of our bodies? The state of our minds? Or perhaps, most importantly, our emotional maturity? The secret is that maturity has nothing to do with the numbers on your birth certificate and everything to do with your state of mind. You could easily meet a 25-year-old who has more maturity than the 50-year-old they are standing next to in the supermarket.
Finding the right balance of maturity in your life can help to improve your emotional well-being and even improve your love life! Find out just how mature you are by answering these five important questions.
1. What do you see when you look in the mirror?
How we see ourselves can tell us a lot about our maturity levels. If you immediately pick out your flaws and start to examine every wrinkle and shadow, it could indicate poor emotional maturity. Becoming truly mature is about accepting every part of yourself. Recognising that your face and body is a reflection of the journey you have been on through life. If you’re someone who struggles to see in the good in yourself, try and make a list of all your favourite parts of yourself. It can help to overcome negative thinking.
2. How do you feel when someone close to you has a lucky break?
It’s telling how we react to other’s success. The most mature of us can feel real joy in the happiness of others. Whether they have come into some unexpected money or finally achieved that promotion they have been striving for. A sign of emotional immaturity is that we resent the good fortune of those around us. If you find yourself struggling with feelings of jealousy or resentment, take a deep breath and remind yourself of how much you care about the person you are directing these feelings at.
3. You’ve embarrassed yourself in public. How does it make you feel?
It happens to the best of us. A trip over a loose paving slab. A wardrobe malfunction. Or spilling a glass of red wine over a pristine white tablecloth. All of us occasionally make mistakes and often these happen at the most inconvenient moments! But if you struggle to take everyday mishaps in your stride it could be a sign that you need to do some growing up. Learn to laugh at yourself and understand that these things happen to everyone. It will make life much less stressful!
4. Your waiter gets your order wrong. How do you react?
Is it by screaming, stomping and threatening to leave a one-star review on trip advisor? If you’re prone to losing your temper easily then you need to combat this problem and fast. Maturity is about learning to overcome problems, small and large, with grace an understanding. People make mistakes. You need to show your maturity through understanding and support. Even if a situation calls for a difficult conversation you should try and conduct yourself with quiet composure.
5. What makes you happy?
This can be a difficult question to answer but it reveals a lot about our true maturity levels. If your primary drivers for happiness are material, the size of your house or your bank balance then you could be lacking in emotional maturity. The most mature of us find happiness through less measurable joys. From family and friends to spending time in nature. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the finer things in life, just try not to let it become your biggest goal.
Maturity is not something to be ashamed of, it’s a sign of a balanced and contented mind. So, go embrace your mature side! If you’re a single senior man or woman who still feels young at heart, why not consider signing up to 2seniors.co.uk? Your perfect match could be just a few clicks away.