If you’re interested in love and history, you might want to have a read of a book by American author, Moira Weigal, called labor of love.
In the book she talks about dating from the 1900s to the present day and looks how it has changed over the decades and the impact it has had on society. We thought it could be fun and informative to talk about dating then vs now.
In the 1920s, dating didn’t exist in the way we know of today. Gentleman were encouraged to call and see young ladies at home and they were only invited to call again if they came from the right social background and met with parental approval.
The 40s and 50s
By the 1940s and 50s women had more independence due to the war. However, it was still the man that asked a woman to go out with him and he would either have to come to the door of girl’s home, write a note or use the telephone. Men and women would often date for months before they confirmed that they were ‘going steady.’ This usually meant that they would eventually get engaged and save up to get married.
In the 1960s things began to change. The Pill came along and gave women more freedom. It was accepted that you didn’t have to marry the first man you went out with and relationships became less formal. Men and women met in dance halls, at work or in bars. However, getting pregnant whilst you weren’t married was not acceptable and led to many forced marriages and adoptions.
The 1970s were about having fun together. Men and woman put off marriage until they were older and sex outside marriage was more common. Abortion was also legal, so women could choose whether or not to have a child. The 70s also saw the feminist movement gain strength and Germaine Greer published her best- selling book The Female Eunuch.
The 80s and 90s
By the 1980s and 1990s young people were living together instead of getting married and having children when you weren’t married was becoming acceptable.
Fast forward to today and the dating scene has changed completely. Seniors looking to find companionship or love will need to become computer savvy, as internet dating is now the norm. Dating sites are all over the internet and its popular with all ages.
For seniors the internet is an ideal way to meet someone new. You can get to know someone before you decide to meet them, so that you needn’t be anxious or stuck for words when you do eventually meet up. Dating sites on the internet let you look at the profiles of the people who are registered and senior sites make sure that you are only being introduced to people who are close to your age and that share your interests.
Make sure when you do go on a date to meet in a public place and never give your home address away or invite someone to your home before you have got to know them.
It might take a while to find someone that you really get on with, but in the meanwhile treat any dates you make as an opportunity to meet new people and make new friends.
If you’re someone who likes to get out of the house, you can also take advantage of the popularity nowadays of speed dating. Have a look at this article in the online over 50s magazine Silversurfers. It gives you some tips about getting started and where to find speed dating nights in your area.
Dating today is a lot easier than it was back in the day. Use it to your advantage and enjoy getting back into the game.