Being in a long-term relationship is amazing. You always have someone to talk to and support you, as well as a partner to enjoy sex with. However, committed couples often get stuck in a rut when it comes to sex. In the end, before you even realise it, you find yourself sticking to the same old position in the same old place (usually your bed).
To spice up your sex life, you need to bring a little novelty and fun to the bedroom. Don’t worry, there are many simple ways to break the routine.
1. Create a romantic atmosphere
If you want to boost your sex life, get yourself and your partner in a sensual mood. What you need to do is to create a romantic atmosphere. You could, for example, set up a romantic scene by sprinkling rose petals from the front door to the bedroom. Another idea is to prepare him or her a bath, add petals to the water and light scented candles. Why not also surprise your 50+ partner with a romantic candlelit dinner at home? Don’t be afraid of the clichés!
2. Spend the night in a fancy hotel
Break your routine by spending a night in a classy hotel with your significant other. Whether you choose to surprise them or not, spending a steamy night outside the same four walls can be incredibly sexy. Opt for a room that has a bathtub, get a bottle of champagne and voila – you have all the ingredients for the perfect romantic night.
3. Wear something sexy
What you wear can really heat things up. Suggestive lingerie and high heels for the ladies and maybe a handsome suit for the gents. Opt for whatever you and your partner prefer. Don’t forget the rest of your look: the makeup, perfume, hair and nails, as well as a little beard maintenance for the gents.
4. Start sexting
Sexting, which is the act of sending or receiving sex-themed messages, is not only reserved for teenagers. In fact, there is no age limit when it comes to sending sexy text messages. Additionally, there is no shame whatsoever in doing it if you’re a senior over 50.
To arouse your mature partner, you could, for example, remind them of a time when you had an amazing sexual encounter. You might also try using sexting as foreplay before you see each other later at home.
If you’re not convinced yet, according to a study, sexting often has positive outcomes on the sex lives of those in a committed relationship. Moreover, half of those sexting declared that it “positively influenced their sexual and emotional relationships with a partner.”
Not only is playing roles fun, it’s also one of the best ways to heat things up in the bedroom. Chat with your loved one about what you would like to do or be, and then make it happen. It could involve meeting them in a bar and acting as if you are just two strangers flirting. You could also play the dominant and submissive, the professor and the student, a painter and their muse or a sexy nurse and a patient. The sky’s the limit!
You can get your outfits from a sex shop and play roles at home, a hotel or somewhere else of your choosing. In the end, your brain is your largest sexual organ, particularly your imagination. So, use it!
6. Go sex shopping
Shopping for sex toys is an excellent way to try new things in bed, all while having fun. From penis rings and vibrators, to geisha balls and handcuffs, there are plenty of sex toys that you and your partner might enjoy.
7. Try new positions
This sounds super obvious, we agree. However, when was the last time you tried a new sex position? If you’re struggling with finding an answer, then it’s probably time to have a flick through the old Kama sutra. Just type “Kama sutra sex positions” into Google and you’ll get plenty of ideas.
8. Have sex in new places
If you always have sex on your bed, it’s time for a change. In the bathroom, the kitchen, the living room, explore all rooms and surfaces of your home. You can even challenge your lover to do it in every room.
Additionally, what’s forbidden and a bit dangerous is always exciting. So make love somewhere you should not, for instance, a public place such as the bathroom of a restaurant, or even a park. Just make sure that no one catches you at it, of course.
9. Make your fantasy a reality
Do you have a naughty fantasy that you’ve never dared to make a reality, or even to talk about? If you’re looking to add some variety and spice to your bedroom antics then it’s time to make your erotic fantasy happen.
10. Play these fun and sexy adult games
There is no age limit when it comes to playing games, and there are plenty of adult board games that you can purchase in sex shops or online. They are a great opportunity to explore new positions and to talk about sex, all while having fun. There is no pressure, and in general, people feel less nervous about doing things they usually wouldn’t do.
If you don’t feel like playing board games, try this instead: both partners write an erotic story where they describe in detail one of their fantasies. Your partner and yourself are the main characters. Read each other’s story (out loud or not). Then make your story real by playing your roles!
You might be a bit shy at first but don’t worry, you’re on the same page here. You’ll see, it’s incredibly sexy and arousing!